I read an article posted by a friend of mine the other day ... and I've been thinking about it ever since. The things I've thought about, as I've contemplated what it is about the article that has pricked me over and over, well, they are worth sharing. I highly recommend reading the article first, because the rest of this will only really make sense if you do :)
Here's the thing ... I actually agree with at least 85% of everything the author says. I enjoyed it. Being a mom is a BUSY job and it really doesn't leave me with a lot of time for myself every day. In fact, if I didn't wake up early to get my workout in before my kids woke up, it would most likely never get done. So why did this article stir me up?? Here is what I came up with...
I completely and totally agree that the "world's" version of beauty and thinness and happiness all being mixed up together is completely MESSED UP. I have so many many BEAUTIFUL girl friends of all different shapes and sizes. They are all beautiful BECAUSE they look different. It's like the saying in the Disney Movie the Incredibles: If everyone [had small noses] no one would. Feel free to insert any phrase into those brackets: big eyes, small waists, thin hips, big boobs ... whatever it is about yourself that you wish you could change. We are ALL beautiful ladies! Period. Start focusing on the things you DO like about yourself and stop obsessing about the things you wish you could change ... be happy with who you are.
Where I run into trouble is trying to reconcile this strong strong strong belief I have that women need to start creating their own positive body image and STOP comparing themselves to other women ... with the fact that I'm now changing so much about my life and my body and ... I really am happier.
I get it now though ... ready for this ... I'm not happier because of the way I look ... if that were true, I wouldn't be happy at all because, honestly, how many of you ladies could say you would be ecstatic to weigh 214 pounds??? Right??? (Only those of us who have been bigger ... perspective :)) But I still have so far to go to reach my "healthy body weight" ... that it CAN'T be that.
I'm happier because I am already living a HEALTHY LIFE STYLE. I eat well, fuel my body, and give myself a boost of energy every single day with exercise. Exercise gives people endorphins ... endorphins make people happy ... and happy people don't hate themselves. They just don't.
But to get back to the article ... I love that this man loves his wife just for who she is. I am SO thankful I have a man like that in my life. The only thing I would say is this: don't let your kids be your EXCUSE for not living a healthy lifestyle. There are a lot of excuses out there. You really will have More energy and More happiness and More self-confidence to share with your kids if you take the hour or so a day to make yourself more healthy ... and THAT will make you a Better Mom.