I should also clarify ... It isn't my gusband who worries about how much weight I gain or lose at any given time. I have the most amaing, supportive, loving, kind, thoughtful best friend of a husband. In fact, I blame him almost entirely for my years of being so much more of a woman than I am now. Because he made me feel beautiful. I didn't feel any reason to change anything. I changed because I WANTED to be more healthy. That's it. And he has supported me through everything 100%. This is probably why it hurts me so much when I know other men out there don't support their wives in the same way. There is a better way to get the results you want. It's a little something I like to call "the right way." Love her. Love your wife. That's it. That's all you need to do. Make her feel important, loved and beautiful and she will become the woman of your dreams.